Attractive woman

Break ups are devastating experiences, especially if you are still in love with your ex. The situation becomes worse if your ex does not answer your phone calls. Breaking up can really be painful and tough, especially if we do not learn how to deal with it effectively. So follow the guide below to get you on the right track to get a woman back. I am going to enter into a discussion about the psychology of attraction and how you can use that to your advantage to get your ex back if you understand how this stuff really works.

So how does this emotional attraction stuff work to win her heart back without having to work too hard? Well it is instructive to first think of it in evolutionary terms, and think back to our humble ancestors in the caves, sharpening their spears and wondering where the next meal is going to come from. Even now, in terms of relationships our caveman friend is living in small tribal units where everyone knows everyone else, and every good thing that he does is known about by the community. Every faux pas that he makes is also known. In that type of small community is it any wonder that men would be rather shy to go and talk to the women? After all, if they are rejected then in a small tribal community where there is a limited supply of females, that could literally ruin their status to such an extent that they won’t get the chance to reproduce with a female again. So it is a big deal that they get it right and are very certain that their advances will be reciprocated.

The thing is that despite thinking that that is somehow in the past and that we don’t have to worry too much about what was true for cavemen (“Hey Dude! Haven’t you heard? This is the 21st Century!”). The truth is that in evolutionary terms nothing much has changed. And that whilst the meeting places may be fancier the techniques to win a woman back are surprisingly similar. In truth, when it comes to women we are still very much living in our animal skins standing at the mouth of a cave. Namely, that most men still have an enormous fear of rejection that is out of all proportion to the potential risks involved and that this is primarily grounded in biological mechanisms that cause us to have fears of the consequences of being rejected by women.

Now, where this is all leading to is the fact that your status with your ex is still very much dependent on your social status as she perceives it, and whether or not she thinks of you as a pack leader.  Now, of course, all of this communication is on the subconscious level. She isn’t going to come out and say any of that, or even think it. And most women would deny what I am saying is true. But the reality is that women are hard wired to be more attracted to dominant, assertive guys. You aren’t literally going to bash her on the head, tell her that you are her tribal leader, and that you are whisking her off back to your cave. (Sounds fantastic! I wish it worked!) But what you are going to need to do is to re-connect with the primitive attraction part of her that you triggered all those moons ago when you first went out.

Once you know that fact then it makes it that much easier to figure out strategies to reconnect with your ex. It becomes clearer why you can’t act like a wuss, or phone her ten times a day. None of those actions are the actions of a leader and it is time that you stepped up to the plate and demonstrated who you really are. A good first step is actually to minimise contact with your ex-girlfriend. This might seem counter-intuitive (especially as you want to get back with her!) But what you need to realise is that if you are too available to her now that you have broken up, that there is a very real risk of slipping into the dreaded ‘friends zone’ where she unburdens all the crap and grief about her life onto your shoulders, but you don’t get any of the payoff in terms of love energy! Forget that. You want the good stuff.  If you cut yourself off from her then you have every opportunity of moving things forward more quickly.